To the Tree who Never set me Free

A beautiful tree

And the bird is me

We tried our best to make a beautiful nest

Too many storms at the place where we tried to build a home.

Because even during soothing rain, we still felt pain.

Because even when it was time for me to abandon the tree and leave, I never felt free.

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The Succulent.

Suffocating someone with love. You can’t change things by loving them harder. When someone wants to leave in a relationship because they fell out of love, I don’t believe loving them harder is the answer. Have you ever owned a succulent or a cactus? I have, they’re kind of hard to take care of, I mean not really but we think they are because we tend to over water them then end up killing them. That’s what I think about loving them harder. You’re on your last hope thinking that all the love in the world will stop them from leaving but will that work? You’re suffocating that person with love. I think you should let them leave. Why hold on to someone who doesn’t want to be in your life? I think this approach is the best because maybe they will miss what you once had instead of remembering you as that clingy partner. I know how everyone hates clichés, but you know what they say “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were.” I think this quote is true because if you really did have a deep connection with someone, they will miss what they once had with you. Sometimes time and space are the best thing you can give someone. So, what should you do with your succulent? Look you can try whatever you can to save it, but you’re just dragging out it’s death. Maybe try out a different plant for the meantime until you’re ready for the succulent again.

Because Baby

Because baby the night at the Falls made fall for you
Because baby the day at Disney saved me
Lunches at the park even after dark could never tear me apart
I understand if you don’t want me as your man
I understand if you want someone else’s hand
Because somewhere I lost myself
I forgot your wealth
Because when you don’t call, I know you don’t miss me at all
I’m sorry I asked you to stay on this island full of sand, you know I just wanted to be your man
I promise you I’m doing the best that I can

I am

I believe in me
I am my truth
I am the kid in my youth
I am my pain
I am the calm in the rain
I am my heart
I am the light in the dark
I am love
Simply I love me
I am me
I believe in me

Is it Okay to be Jealous?

Your short answer is no. Let me start off by saying when I was younger, I thought being a little jealous in a relationship is okay but after reading books about bettering yourself and dealing with anger, I realized that it’s not okay to be jealous in a relationship. Jealousy signifies that you’re insecure, yeah jealousy may show a sign that you care about your partner but it’s mostly showing how insecure you truly are. Insecurities lead to many things like trust issues and just many other things that you shouldn’t really need to worry about if you have a faithful partner. You know what sucks the most though? We tend to respond to jealousy with anger when it’s not your partner’s fault, so they deal with that negativity and now you made them feel bad. Now I know it’s impossible to erase our insecurities but don’t ruin your relationship because of them. Try to find the root of why you feel insecure. I’ll use myself for example. My father left when I was about 5 years old, so I tend to think that people never want to stay in my life. I fear that they’ll leave me like my dad did or that they don’t want me. Now that has nothing to do with my partner but them leaving brings back my insecurity that people just leave. So next time you see your partner talking to another person. Ask yourself what’s making you feel jealous; can you prevent being jealous or your response to jealousy? I hope this can help couples save a few fights in the future. I hope you guys enjoyed reading this but let me know what you guys think about jealousy!

Fear of Being Alone

We all want love. It’s just something we crave but the more I notice, I feel like people don’t let their hearts heal before moving on. Let me explain. I think we have this huge fear of being alone or that things won’t get better from our past, or we honestly just want to move on, so someone new is that quick fix that we’re looking for. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you hold on for that pain for a bit. Let your heart heal before you meet someone new. I don’t think it’s fair to be with someone, if I’m in love with someone else and I’m speaking from experience, so story time. I went out with this girl from bumble (a dating app) and for some reason she like fell in love with me after the first date, which blew my mind because like she barely knew me, and I didn’t say she was going to be my girlfriend. Well after the first date I notice that she deleted her bumble which for me was extremely odd because like I said we weren’t together and from my understanding and from what I told her I said I wasn’t ready for a relationship. The reason why I told her I didn’t want a relationship was because I knew I was still in love with my ex at the time and I knew that this was the first date I went on after my break up which I kept telling myself I can’t settle for the first person I meet, why’d I tell myself that you ask? Well I think I would have attached myself to this person for the wrong reasons, my fear of being alone and just for that person to make me feel better. I shouldn’t have to depend on someone else for my happiness. I tell myself all the time I have to learn to be happy on myself and just love myself the best I can, you can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself and for me that was an important concept. I have a tendency for just settling for the first thing that comes into my life, and that’s not okay. Be patient, I promise you that you don’t need anyone right now. Good things come to those who wait. Just let things fall into place, the right person will come into your life when you’re not even looking. Enjoy being single, trust me it’s not for forever even if it seems that way. Love you guys.

Valentine’s Day

I know It’s pretty late and there’s probably a lot of grammar errors but oh well, I should have written this sooner, but I was working, and I thought about it while I was working. Show your significant other you love them this Valentine’s day. One of the last mistakes I made before my ex fell out of love with me was that I didn’t do anything crazy or cared that it was valentine’s day. I just don’t like holidays and I don’t like how commercialized love is on this day because you should love your significant other everyday not just one day of the year. I didn’t put any effort and she didn’t feel the same way I did about the holiday obviously, but I’m an idiot of course, the point of me sharing this story is that, talk to your partner! Ask them what they want on valentine’s day so they aren’t not disappointed and just because they told you what they wanted doesn’t mean you’re in the clear, be romantic about it, have fun with it, that’s the person you want to spend a lifetime with, so make them feel loved, don’t assume they don’t want anything because YOU don’t want anything. We get mad when our expectations aren’t met and we want our partners to be able to read our minds when it comes to things like this, we want things but how are they supposed to know if you don’t ask for them? That’s just not how things work. Remember to always communicate with one another and always tell each other that you love one another. I know I won’t ever make that mistake again. So, if you didn’t do anything fancy today for whatever your reason is, make it up to them tomorrow. Show them you love them. Thanks for reading. Love you guys. Happy Valentine’s Day.